By Bernard Wainaina
Shaving is a testimony of manhood.
Sam, my barber, knows that he can chop off my ear, but he must never chop off my beard.
It is sacred.
He fools around it.
He trims it only a little, because I like it scraggly, like I survived a long winter hibernation.
Daisy,my partner, thinks it’s bullshit.
But the hell with her, she’s just
jealous that she will never grow a beard herself.
She complained about it until she got
tired and gave up.
In life I have met many naysayers who speak ill of my beard, but we (my beard and I) refuse to
give false prophets the time of day.
In my twisted head, my power, my invisible power lies in the bushes of my
It’s my talisman.
Without my beard I’m nothing but a smooth-chinned Quasimodo with a pen.
And when was the last time you took a smooth-
chinned Quasimodo with a pen seriously?
So the beard stays.
I grew a beard late in life.
We are talking 27 years of age.
Hairlessness way after your adolescence, when all your peers already look like colobus monkeys tend to make one develop serious hang-ups.
You imagine that folk talk about your lack of hair behind your back.
It gets to a point where you start thinking you can’t satisfy a woman because your chin is hairless.
You start thinking there is something wrong with you.
That you aren’t manly.
That you aren’t grown-up enough.
You get paranoid.
The curse of the hairless.
Eventually I grew a beard.
Let me explain.
It is similar to a couple eventually getting a baby after several failed attempts.
You jealously hold onto that baby.
Obsess about it.
Keep your eyes on it.
You don’t want people touching it.
Three weeks ago I was in Kinshasha,DRC.
So my pal Benjaps took me to this barber in Kinshasha’s CBD, right near Gambela market.
The barber is Ugandan.
Perhaps that’s when I should have walked away but I have faith in humanity, so I stayed.
Please note that I – like every man, really, isn’t in the habit of changing barbers.
Anyway, when it was time to shave my beard, I specifically told him in my rusty french to trim it, not cut it.
Just trim it.
He said sure, sure, yes, yes, I get it, trim it.
So I reclined on the comfy barbers seat and closed my eyes.
When I opened them moments later half my beard was gone.
Fuckin’ half my beard!
Boy was I livid.
“What have you done?!” I cried.
“Look what you have done!!”
He shrugged defensively, “It looks cleaner this way…”
“It looks cleaner this way?? Do you want to serve food off it?”
Long uncomfortable silence.
I moved closer to the mirror and took a closer look at the damage.
“You have ruined me, my friend.” I muttered.
“You have surely and completely ruined my life.”
“Hiyo itamea tu haraka haraka, tena asana,” he said in his congolese accented Kishwahili..
“Yes, after another 27 bloody years! That’s how long it took me to grow my first beard!” I was furious.
That was a few weeks ago and my beard hasn’t grown back since.
I feel naked.
I feel like the wind blows through face.
When I look in the mirror I don’t know the
person who looks back.
I feel like a Quasimodo with a pen.
This is going somewhere.
A month ago Gillette sent me a whole pack of fancy shaving things.
“Use them and tell us what you think” they urged.
I tried out the Mach 3, has a sexy rubber handle and something called the Front Pivot Technology that makes it bend and yield according to your contours.
Didn’t like it much because it didn’t have enough “traction”.
It was too bendy.
Wasn’t aggressive enough.
It didn’t sink its teeth into my hair, as it should.
It thought my hair was its friend.
But I liked the Fusion Shaver.
A powered gizmo, 5-blade monster that didn’t baby around “contours” like the Mach 3 did.
But listen, after using these products I sat back and thought; what am I going to say about Gillette blades?
What am I going to tell another man about shaving?
I mean your hair is your business; you want to plait your pubic hair in cornrows?
Hey, whatever tickles your fancy.
Then it occurred to me that this is not even about shaving.
It’s even less about blades.
Or hair follicles.
Or sweat glands or shaving bumps, or those
things that folk in white coats sporting funny-shaped spectacles mull over in those spotlessly sanitised Gillette labs.
Shaving is a testimony of manhood.
Women shave yes, but women shave because they are embarrassed of their hair.
We ,Men, aren’t.
Shaving for us isn’t about discarding unwanted hair; it’s about aligning hair.
But the art of shaving has died.
I remember my gurdian dad shaving back in the 80s.
You haven’t seen a bigger spectacle.
I don’t know about your dad, but this is how
men shaved when they wore their manhood on their sleeves.
They walked out of their bedrooms with a towel
tied around their waist and swaggered to the sink.
You knew whose house it was by the way they walked around the house in a towel.
It was a presence that seemed to declare, “I run the ship here. This is my pond.”
We don’t walk around our houses like that anymore.
Now we walk around our houses like soldiers coming back from war, with our dignities in our hands, hounded by ghosts.
Our fathers swaggered to the sink like heroes.
Then they stood there, with a reflective frown on their brows, an old blade in hand, slightly bent at the torso, staring at their chins.
Like they were about to engage in open-heart
Men back then did not admire themselves in the
mirror like we do now.
We spend too much time before mirrors.
We crease our faces as we suck in our bellies,
standing to one side, bloody getting our knickers in a twist if we have added weight on our midsection.
For crying out loud, we keep weighing scales in our bathrooms.
Our fathers barely noticed their girths.
And if they did, they didn’t show that they were bothered.
Vanity had not been conceived.
This was pre-six pack abs as we Kenyans knew it.
This was pre-Esquire.
No man in the 80’s would listen to another man tell him how to tie his tie, or match his shoes with his belt.
Men chose their paths, no matter how lonely, and they stuck to them.
But back to the 80’s man in the mirror.
A small growl would escape their lips.
Then they would run water in the sink, lather up their chins, dip the blade in the water, swish it around, turn their faces delicately to one side and start shaving, creating ridges through the
white snow of lather.
They would take their time,repeating, lathering, squeegeeing through.
Over and over until their faces resembled a penguin’s butt.
Then they would wash off their chins carefully, gently, like a mother washes her new-born’s bum.
After, they would splash on some stinging aftershave, and only then would they be ready to face the world, even if the world wasn’t
ready for them.
But the smell of aftershave would linger in the house for hours.
That’s how you knew there was a male in the
house, a leader in that house; even if we discovered much later that it was our mothers who led.
But that musky smell of aftershave would linger in your head even up to adulthood.
My guardian dad used Gillette aftershave.
I swear he did, I’m not just saying this.
And that smell has stayed with me ever since.
That smell reminds me of how much less of a man I am now compared to him.
Why do I say less of a man?
Well because now, every week we sit in trendy unisex salons, reading girlie magazines as our beards are shaved for us.
Now, we have another man rub balm on our chins, touching and kneading our faces.
It’s a disgrace.
You should see me fuss about my beard. You haven’t seen an eccentric yet until you
have seen me stare at my beard after Sam is finished with it.
It’s enough to make you unfriend me on Facebook.
Gillette should not just make sexy blades.
Gillette should make shaving sexy again.
Shaving should be about sex. Male or female? Check in the right box!
You shave for the same reason you chose to keep hair; to remain desirable, primal male.
The decision to shave is borne from a primal instinct.
And shaving is more than a task, it’s a ritual, a right of passage.
Shaving should be something that when a man does,everybody in the house wants to gather around to watch.
Your son should sit on the floor at your feet, staring up at you work that blade.
Your woman should sit at the dining table, chin cupped in hand, swallowing hard as you skim
that sharp blade ever so close to your throat.
And that skill should turn her on.
You should shave like Don Draper.
Have you watched Don Draper shave in the TV series Mad Men?
Then you haven’t shaved, my friend.
You haven’t shaved until you have shaved like a man from the yester years.
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